Weekly 5-Outtakes Jan 24
Build the foundation strong and deep. Often folks get this far into the new year and lose confidence. Life gets in the way and disruptions happen. This is when I remind myself that those enormous 100 story skyscrapers start with months of excavating and construction to strengthen the foundation before anything is seen above ground. Goals need foundations. What is the next MIT (Most Important Thing) that you need to do to move ahead? Remember, minutes of preparation, save hours of implementation.
Book I am reading
Fifty-five, Unemployed, and Faking Normal: Your Guide to a Better Retirement Life – Elizabeth (Lizzy) White
This too will pass. We have all heard that remark from some well-meaning friend at some point in our lives when disappointment and even severe loss has lifted its ugly head. Everything happens for a reason is another phrase meant to console us in times of trouble. The truth is that our lives are filled with problems that need to be solved. Occasionally, our daily problems are interrupted by periods of catastrophe. The point being that we all are in a crisis, just heading out of a crisis, or just about to head into a crisis. The question is how are we going to think our way out of the situation in which we find ourselves. Elizabeth White forces us to look at our responses and suggests better methods with which to recover our belief in ourselves and the world. An excellent read!
Affirmation I am repeating. Personal responsibility is the cornerstone of creating change in our lives. Once we accept that what we think and how we think are under our control, we have the profound realization that “I am powerful beyond measure.”
The Three Biggest Alternative Facts About Baby Boomers – Exposed
Once you stop steady employment, you can never get a decent job.
Owning my own business is out of the question at my age.
My contribution is not as valuable now as it was in the past.
What I’m researching
What’s the story on Telomeres? Biologist Elizabeth Blackburn and psychologist Elissa Epel detail ways average Joes and Janes can protect their telomeres — and possibly live longer and feel better.
So, Hello Again,
Here are your Weekly 5-Outtakes from Boomer to Zoomer. These are ideas that caught my attention from the past week. Personal effective achievement is built on those areas to which we give attention.
Healthy Thinking – As we age, we naturally lose muscle mass. Strength training is essential to maintaining bones strong and aid in stabilizing balance. Falls that result in bone fractures can lead to long periods of inactivity and declining well-being. You have seen many baby boomers already showing that hunched back posture that restricts breathing and circulation. As important as cardio exercise and weight training are, stretching muscles several times a day are absolutely essential to staying limber and improving circulation while reducing joint pain. Start your day with back and shoulder stretches. Be aware of lowering your shoulders when you find them up around your ears. I invested in a shoulder harness to help build muscle memory. It feels really, good to wear it even for a couple of hours while sitting and walking around and I find my posture has improved substantially.
Hacks I am using – If you get as tired as I do of finding the last product search I did showing up on my social media pages, try using the Incognito function on the Chrome browser. You can switch between an Incognito window and any regular Chrome browsing windows you have open. Product searches from an Incognito window remain confidential.
How I Avert Scarcity Impulses – Scarcity and limiting abundance are techniques used in marketing to coerce you to take action before time runs out or supply disappears. Research shows that we all are drawn to take action before the opportunity is gone forever, or so we think. One of the greatest reminders that I learned from Brian Tracy years ago, is that “There is always another bus!” I have used it with urgent sales people ever since and it stops them in their tracks. Whenever you find yourself wrought with anxiety to decide, right now, remind yourself; there is always another bus. You will feel better and more in control of your decisions.
How I Absorb Books – I read several hours every day and go through 2-3 books per week, plus hundreds of research-articles. I use the OPIR method for getting the most accelerated learning to absorb books quickly. Overview, Preview, In-view, & Review.
Overview – Quickly read the covers, table of contents and bibliography to check for relevance.
Preview – Go through chapter headings and quickly and take in key points, especially those of interest at-the-moment. If nothing interests you, get rid of the book. You will never remember any of It anyway.
In-view – Delve into greater depth. Turn each page and read paragraph beginnings to get the gist, especially on topics of interest at the time. Highlight key passages as you read. Make the book yours!
Review – Take a short time to go page by page where you have highlighted and written notes. You now have excellent comprehension and can quickly grasp the key points of interest to you in the future.
Affirmation I Am Repeating – Stop smoldering and start igniting your life! Shoulda, coulda, woulda, someday, are not in the vocabulary of the effective achiever. Drive comes from the love of the game. If you love what you do, your passion will exude. Remember, in the back of your mind, you know the clock is ticking and running out. Regret only the things you have never tried.
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Some call it Resilience. Others call it Grit. It’s a quality inside that leads to what Mr. Kratz, my trumpet teacher when I was 11 years old called, Stick-to-itiveness. What I call “Dogged persistence born out of obligation and stubbornness”.
My father was an abusive disciplinarian. He was nearly sixty years old when I was born and often seemed like a grandfather figure rather than a father. He was born in 1889. Yup, my father was born 128 years ago. Child rearing was a different concept then. By the time my siblings and I came along, the child rearing method of the day was that parents must break the will of the child at an early age in order to control their behavior. Creative, endeavors were seen as aberrant behavior and stifled. Children were to be seen and not heard. Consequently, I could either become resentful and give up my power to an external locus of control or secretively harbor and protect my self-esteem through adaptive measures. Fortunately, for me, that little person inside of me chose, yes chose, to maintain the locus of control internally. For what reason did I choose to rise above the abuse and flourish and my three siblings choose to feel defeated in life and give their power up to an external ghost?
The answer to that question bates the answer to the question of, why are some people seemingly more successful than others? Why do certain people have greater personal effectiveness while others feel life is controlled by luck and circumstance rather than by the laws of cause and effect, action and reaction and sowing and reaping?
Norman Garmezy addressed these concepts and questions and started what became known as resilience theory. Emmy Werner also concluded that the same traumatic environmental factors resulted in opposing behavioral outcomes within the same cohort. Angela Duckworth has shown that Grit can be learned and strengthened.
This means, to me, that baby boomers have the distinct, verifiable opportunity to consciously change directions and strengthen their internal locus of control to take control of their own power to make decisions by controlling how and what they think. The question I ask is, can business startup success be predicted in the baby boomer cohort that sees retirement as an opportunity for new beginnings?
Henry Ford said; if you think you can’t or you think you can, you’re right. Your commitment to change is up to you. Brian Tracy says that a person feels a level of self-esteem to the degree to which they feel in control of their outside world. Your outside world is a manifestation of your internal expectation and design. Make a decision today to get clarity on what you want your outside world to look like. Get clarity on your motives. Write them down. Connect your motives to your goals. It really is as simple as fill-in-the-blanks and connect the dots. Your motivation will come from your fascination and love of the game.